Men and woman ARE different

01/06/08 11:34 AM

Men talk to communicate, women talk to express feelings. Seems simple ha? Yet this basic gender principle is the root cause for a lot of miscommunication in relationships. Men are not used to talking about "how we feel" because our society does not raise male children that way. Men are supposed to be the stronger sex and when we talk about how we feel, and believe me men have a lot insecurities, it makes us feel as though we are weak.

Now if your a woman reading this you may have seen a cute guy at a bar, restaurant or work and wondered why he never asked you out. You probably start to internalize and think that you need to go to the gym to lose more weight or that you're not his type. The reality is that he may be afraid to ask you out. That's right afraid. Rejection is a fear that has a powerful inhibitor and a lot of men don't like to deal with the consequences.

On the other side of the coin, if a woman asks a guy out is she being too forward ? The answer to that is no. It's not like you are going to go to bed with him right away it's just let me see if he a decent guy and get to know him. Yes men think with their zippers but as we get older we realize that there is more to relationships than sex. It's sharing the ups and downs on the path of life..it's having someone to hang with and watch movies and eat a pizza..it's taking trips to get away and it's waking up next to someone with whom you are sharing life. Believe it or not eventually guys appreciate that.

Now here's another myth that I going to dispel for women: although guys read magazines like Playboy we realize that these "perfect" women have had a lot of help with the airbrush. The reason the Dove campaign is so successful is that it shows real women not pencil thin perfect models. If a man wants a woman with big breasts then he is not ready for a relationship he is only interested in superficial things and you should stay away from him. Eventually men will realize that women are different from them and they will also see that accepting people for what they are, not what we want them to be, is the most important aspect of any relationship.